We think about sex. We fantasize about sex. We spend an inordinate amount of time and money in the pursuit of sex. We have sex. Having sex in public places is one of those things that sounds delightfully naughty in theory, but does not usually wind up being so hot in real life. If you’re interested in trying to add a little element of risk to your sex life or fucking in public without winding up with a public indecency charge with your present record, here are some tips.

Be creative

Part of what makes public sex alluring is that you have to be fast, quiet, and sneaky. You can replicate these dynamics without having to risk strangers seeing your genitals. Try having sex when you’re travelling over the holidays; having to go extra slow to avoid making the bed springs creak can be thrilling.

Make your home a little less private

Open the doors, windows, or blinds in your apartment to get a taste of public sex without the risk. If you have top-down blinds, you can peek your heads out into the world while keeping your bodies covered. Or you can do it up against the wall next to an open door leading out to your balcony or back porch. If your next door neighbours are outside or within earshot, keep the windows open and try getting it on without making a peep.

Watch him

If your girlfriend is turned on by the idea of other people watching her, tell her to jack off in front of you. You can even role play a little and “accidentally” catch her enjoying some private time with herself. Or watch her over video chat like a free gay sex chat from the other room. It’s exhibitionism without the strangers.